Many times as parents we think our children are way too young to understand what they actually see. That's why we as adults must be vigilant in NOT allowing our children to see adults fight or physically raise a hand to one another in anger! Children EVEN learn from watching television and or movies that we may be watching with or without them... Our children are little sponges! They are our next ...generation of natural resources (no pun intended) sad but true.
However, on the other hand NEVER hit a child in anger with an open hand PERIOD! We must define and be able to communicate the bad behavior this first time in order to gain control. Explain that children DO NOT hit or strike their parents EVER!
Bring the child under control by holding their arms in a non threatening position at their sides while explaining that we DON'T hit mommy or daddy; if they persist tell them we practice corporal punishment in this household. This entails a belt to the back side according to the severity of the infraction.
Communicate with your child prior to the actual act happening what the repeat circumstances would call for. DON'T tell a child you going to use the belt or paddle and then use idle threats. When I told my child they were going to get two licks with the belt I did what I said I was going to do. Then I asked them to tell me why they got a spanking? Once they explained to me why they received their spanking I dropped the matter because I knew they understood.
Enough said I didn't dwell on the act any longer once they received their punishment for their infraction and I dropped the matter totally.
We as adults over analyze things and browbeat our kids way too much. The mental abuse of going on and on sometimes is relentless and demeaning! Punishment should be swift and decisive; nonnegotiable!
I always told my kids... The Doctors run the insane asylum NOT the patient... LOL! Everything a child learns comes from his parents his family his love ones and especially his friends... Once they are 18 they can make their own choices outside our homes as adults! Amen
However, on the other hand NEVER hit a child in anger with an open hand PERIOD! We must define and be able to communicate the bad behavior this first time in order to gain control. Explain that children DO NOT hit or strike their parents EVER!
Bring the child under control by holding their arms in a non threatening position at their sides while explaining that we DON'T hit mommy or daddy; if they persist tell them we practice corporal punishment in this household. This entails a belt to the back side according to the severity of the infraction.
Communicate with your child prior to the actual act happening what the repeat circumstances would call for. DON'T tell a child you going to use the belt or paddle and then use idle threats. When I told my child they were going to get two licks with the belt I did what I said I was going to do. Then I asked them to tell me why they got a spanking? Once they explained to me why they received their spanking I dropped the matter because I knew they understood.
Enough said I didn't dwell on the act any longer once they received their punishment for their infraction and I dropped the matter totally.
We as adults over analyze things and browbeat our kids way too much. The mental abuse of going on and on sometimes is relentless and demeaning! Punishment should be swift and decisive; nonnegotiable!
I always told my kids... The Doctors run the insane asylum NOT the patient... LOL! Everything a child learns comes from his parents his family his love ones and especially his friends... Once they are 18 they can make their own choices outside our homes as adults! Amen
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